“they are dialects in the same language of identity, sometimes clashing, sometimes complementing. both have failed me in different ways, and both have offered me tools: one to question, the other to anchor.” so so amazingly written 🤍🤍
this is one of the reasons I fear becoming a hijabi, I actually like wearing the scarf, but of course its not perfect, and then with being a hijabi you are visibly a Muslim woman and its like the world has an immediate right to tell you that 'wear it properly or don't', its haram to do so and so when you're doing to most normal thing in the world like wearing pants for ex. and like these comments are never bestowed upon men, only us and I hate the thoughts people hold in Muslim communities more than I hate my religion (which btw I do not resent) , I think so many of us are blessed to be born Muslim but then the way it gets so easily mixed into culture preaches another story, one that always drives us away from Islam, and then they themselves call us westernized and all these labels like we did not become this because of them.
100%. growing up my family actually DISCOURAGED me from wearing the hijab because apparently people didn’t want to marry hijabis who were too conservative (only in my family and it’s ridiculous i know), or that i may as well never wear the hijab because it will be too hard and i will take it off anyway and that’s more disrespectful. so i know what you mean. also often times muslim men complain saying : “why need feminism when the Quran lays down what women are and aren’t allowed to do.” what they don’t realise is that God gave us rights, but men don’t give us those rights. we don’t need a wave of feminism in Islam to disprove God, but to reinforce the rights that God gave us but men refuse to give (should’ve added that in my post the more i think about it).
omg yes!! I hate it when Muslim men and women too!! (like my actual cousins and family members) say that Feminism is something we don’t need and that it is too ‘liberal and western’ and to finish the conversation they say its un-islamic and not the right thing to believe in feminist beliefs, like feminist beliefs aren’t based on the idea of women getting the right to exist without being labeled the reason for the downfall of society, the right to be protected in the way that she doesn’t have to drown herself!!
Seeing that most of them think this way is a clear indicator that islam for so long has only been interpreted by men for men, and that so many women have just adopted these ideas and internalized them too. This is why men are so passionate about the 4 wives because its my right debate and then will never ever acknowledge any kind of abuse that a woman goes through as anything bad, but will continue to blame the woman by saying ‘she probably deserved it’, this is why we need feminism, because in Islam we have the idea of womens rights but no one ever gives it to us!! (I should write about this)
“they are dialects in the same language of identity, sometimes clashing, sometimes complementing. both have failed me in different ways, and both have offered me tools: one to question, the other to anchor.” so so amazingly written 🤍🤍
this is one of the reasons I fear becoming a hijabi, I actually like wearing the scarf, but of course its not perfect, and then with being a hijabi you are visibly a Muslim woman and its like the world has an immediate right to tell you that 'wear it properly or don't', its haram to do so and so when you're doing to most normal thing in the world like wearing pants for ex. and like these comments are never bestowed upon men, only us and I hate the thoughts people hold in Muslim communities more than I hate my religion (which btw I do not resent) , I think so many of us are blessed to be born Muslim but then the way it gets so easily mixed into culture preaches another story, one that always drives us away from Islam, and then they themselves call us westernized and all these labels like we did not become this because of them.
100%. growing up my family actually DISCOURAGED me from wearing the hijab because apparently people didn’t want to marry hijabis who were too conservative (only in my family and it’s ridiculous i know), or that i may as well never wear the hijab because it will be too hard and i will take it off anyway and that’s more disrespectful. so i know what you mean. also often times muslim men complain saying : “why need feminism when the Quran lays down what women are and aren’t allowed to do.” what they don’t realise is that God gave us rights, but men don’t give us those rights. we don’t need a wave of feminism in Islam to disprove God, but to reinforce the rights that God gave us but men refuse to give (should’ve added that in my post the more i think about it).
omg yes!! I hate it when Muslim men and women too!! (like my actual cousins and family members) say that Feminism is something we don’t need and that it is too ‘liberal and western’ and to finish the conversation they say its un-islamic and not the right thing to believe in feminist beliefs, like feminist beliefs aren’t based on the idea of women getting the right to exist without being labeled the reason for the downfall of society, the right to be protected in the way that she doesn’t have to drown herself!!
Seeing that most of them think this way is a clear indicator that islam for so long has only been interpreted by men for men, and that so many women have just adopted these ideas and internalized them too. This is why men are so passionate about the 4 wives because its my right debate and then will never ever acknowledge any kind of abuse that a woman goes through as anything bad, but will continue to blame the woman by saying ‘she probably deserved it’, this is why we need feminism, because in Islam we have the idea of womens rights but no one ever gives it to us!! (I should write about this)